escape, recover, heal with me
I KNOW YOU'RE HURTING
Otherwise you wouldn’t have made it here to my website, and to this page. Maybe you’re currently suffering at the hands of someone you love. Maybe it’s so dark where you’re at you’ve lost almost all hope; you feel isolated, alone, even crazy. Maybe you’ve read some of my work and believe you may be in a relationship with a Narcissist, and feel like you need to do something but don’t what that something is. Perhaps you’ve contemplated leaving your situation, but you don’t know how or if you have the strength to do so. You may have recently left – or escaped – an abusive or toxic relationship, and now you don’t know what to do because it hurts so fucking bad. Maybe you have children and are navigating a difficult divorce and wonder how you’ll ever make it through.
You want answers. You want clarity. You want an end to your pain.
I’m here for you.
When we are in a situation where we are suffering, especially when that suffering is the direct result from someone we love, we feel so alone since everyone around us is playing into those dynamics. In that loneliness, we then start to feel crazy and doubt ourselves at every turn, which leads to a vicious cycle of blaming and shaming ourselves to a point where the light has all but disappeared from our world and we believe we are doomed to suffer like this forever. Consequently, this doubt and guilt we carry ends up keeping us from moving out of our pain and into the light. In fact, for every step forward, we seem to take ten steps back.
And that’s where I can help you and support you.
You see, when we’re in the darkness – or even if we’ve recently left it – we don’t have the perspective or frame of mind to make those necessary rational decisions. We’re still attached emotionally to whatever toxic behaviors and emotional turmoil we’ve been experiencing. We’ve lost our voice, we no longer trust our instincts, thus our suffering continues because, let’s face it, when we are in such pain we can barely breathe, let alone think clearly.
I know you feel alone, but what I also know is that there is one common thread with women who not only survive the darkness but also claim their glorious space in the light: they have that one person who believes in them, who supports them, and who can be that voice of reason and perspective that leads them out of the old world they inhabit and into a life full of real love, freedom, peace, and joy.
I am that voice. And I am here to support you as you transition from the darkness into your place in the light that is waiting for you with open arms.
Escaping, recovering, and healing from any type of abusive or toxic situation is a difficult journey, and one that is even more difficult if traveled alone. This explains why the majority of women will return to their abuser or to a toxic relationship over and over again, because they are stuck in a cycle of attachment that they feel helpless to break.
Again, it’s because when we’re drowning in such pain, we can barely think of how we’re going to make it through the day let alone what next week might look like. This vulnerable state of being is why even after we’ve left the situation, we’re still pulled back and manipulated into remaining emotionally attached, which facilitates only more suffering.
And if we have children, that suffering is only intensified for both us and them.
My support includes being that voice and keeping the vision alive of your beautiful future that you cannot yet see through your tears, and helping you dig deeper into figuring out what that picture looks like. I act as a mirror of your higher self, guide you to a place where you can be in the driver’s seat and trust your own instincts as to where you’re driving to. I am that voice of reason that will help you think outside of your current pain, assess the situation honestly, and remind you of what you’re really worthy of and deserve in your life (like honesty, respect, and love).
If you are a woman who wants to work at a deeper level to change your life for the better, I’m here to support you in that journey. I offer a limited amount of packages that are specific to your current situation and those areas I can best help guide and support you.
My programs are based on email correspondence for several reasons: writing emails allows us the immediate outlet to express our pain and ask for help; it is private and therefore accessible from a variety of spaces in case you’re being monitored or followed (for example, you can set up a new email address specifically for this program and access it from a library if needed); and you are able to keep the emails as a reminder of where you’ve been and where you’re going. Emails also provide us clarity to “think before we speak” and therefore learn how to manage our emotions and make decisions out of wisdom and patience instead of only reaction.
It's time for you to escape, recover, and heal.
I offer three different programs that will help you where you are NOW:
(Not sure which program might fit you best? Send me an email at email@example.com)
1) CLAIM YOUR SPACE IN THE LIGHt
This program is for you if:
- You are in a toxic relationship and want to get out
- You think you might be in a relationship with a Narcissist but don't know how to find out
You know you need to make a change but don’t know what that first step will look like
You have recently left a toxic or abusive situation and you need help moving forward
You're thinking about returning to your previous situation but know deep down it's not the right or healthy thing for you to do
You can't think straight because you're still in love with the person who has brought you pain
You desperately want to move on but are still attached to what you left behind
You know that you're at risk for being sucked back into a relationship that wasn't good for you
What you can expect:
Your pain right now is real and fresh, and it has been compelling you to act in ways you wouldn’t normally act, so I will be that voice of perspective to help you look at the bigger picture and make sure you’re moving forward. I will provide you action steps specific to your particular situation (maybe your ex wants you back and is hoovering you like crazy, maybe you’ve left but don’t know how you’ll survive the pain) so that you won’t make a decision you later regret due to your inability to sever that emotional attachment.
Through meditation, journaling exercises, and other useful tools that will empower you to take the next step, I will be your life preserver, and I won’t let go. These three weeks are the crucial component to your emotional survival and will serve as the catalyst you need to step into the light fully and get your journey of healing and recovery started on the right foot.
So take my hand and let’s step on through to the light that is waiting for you.
2) hold your space in the light
This program is for you if:
- You have left the darkness behind but feel the pull to return to what is "familiar"
- You still are emotionally attached to the one who has brought you pain
- You need clarity as to how to move forward
- You don't know how to navigate this new world on your own
- You have children and are contemplating or entering divorce proceedings
- You still don't trust yourself to make emotionally sound decisions
- You're feeling the aftereffects of pain and suffering
- You want to move forward but don't know in what direction to go
What you can expect:
Once we cross the threshold from the darkness into the light, that is where our journey actually begins. The reason this particular part is so difficult is because oftentimes there is still much love and attachment for the one we left or escaped. We can’t think clearly because of that love. These first few months are the hardest, so I will be there holding your hand and being that voice of your future self who wants peace and happiness and love. I will be that voice of reason to remind you how strong you really are, and provide that perspective that is necessary to lift you out of the swamp of suffering that you fall into without notice. I will help you navigate this difficult road during times of trouble and stress and anxiety, exploring those issues that keep you attached (such as when you keep tabs on his facebook page and see he’s dating someone else, or when your ex starts a smear campaign against you and you don’t know how to respond).
I will help you look at the bigger picture of where you are now and where you want to be, and support you on your journey of claiming and remaining in and honoring your space in the light. Because you’ve got this, and even if you don't believe it yourself, I do.
3) own your space in the light
This program is for you if:
- You're navigating a difficult divorce and/or having to co-parent with a Narcissist
- You have children that are being affected by the darkness of your past
- The Narcissist in your life has waged a full-on war against you
- You need support and guidance through the separation process
- Your ex is still manipulating you and/or your children
- You suffer from anxiety, depression, PTSD, etc. due to the toxic situation you left behind
- You need the advice of someone who has been through what you have
- You're feeling closer than ever to emotional freedom and yet there is something unknown still holding you back
What you can expect:
Healing is not a linear process that starts at A and ends at Z. It is full of ups and downs and rugs being pulled out from beneath you when you least expect it. One of the most common occurrences for women who have left a toxic relationship behind are those moments that come out of nowhere and bite you in the ass. Often we are in a position where we feel at the top of our game, that freedom is almost ours, when something or someone from the past appears and challenges everything that we have worked so hard for.
Whether you’re still dealing with the toxic effects of the divorce process (especially with a Narcissist who will punish you without mercy during a divorce), or you’re dealing with friends who have abandoned you or stayed on the fence when you needed them most, or even when your own family members are throwing you out in the cold, this is the crucial time for you to remain balanced and whole and healthy, not only for your own sake but for the sake of your children if you have any.
There is nothing more important in your life than for you to be healthy and whole. If you have children who are also suffering from the effects of a toxic relationship or abusive family dynamic, there is nothing that will help them move forward and heal more than a mother who is strong, empowered, and who has the emotional tools available to survive the darkness and move forward into a space of light and freedom that will never be compromised again.
You’ve suffered enough. It’s time for you to fly.
Still not sure which program might fit you best? Contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org